2 days ago
Monday, March 2, 2009
"A Rant" dedicated to my newest daughter "Alaina" a sweet but difficult child..LOL
I just want to SCREAM!!!!!
Okay, listen up all of you...my friends, family, my blog stalkers...you know who you are!
I need you to promise me a few things...expecially those of you with children, those of you who care for children, and those of you planning to have children.
PROMISE ME that you will do everything in your power to let your children know they are loved!
Then PROMISE YOUR CHILDREN that you will love them NO MATTER WHAT!
Tell them that no matter how they behave you will always be there for them.
PROMISE to teach them all you know about making good choices.
PROMISE them that they will always be protected, even if it is from YOURSELF.
PROMISE them that you will never turn your back on them EVER!!
Make sure they know that you TRULY want to be with them forever!
Empower them from danger!....Tell them that if they are scared, or afraid, or being hurt, that they can do everything in their power to fight back...to kick, scream, to scratch an eye out of an offender if they have to. No matter who it is...that they do not ever have to be a victim.
PROMISE them that you will really try to listen to them, even when what they say hurts you or scares you.
PROMISE them that they can tell you anything and you will be understanding.
And then really be understanding...
And if at some point they need help...promise them that you will do everything in your power to make that happen.
Never put them in jail, never hit them, shove them, pull their hair, scratch them, sit on them, call them names, or ridicule them. And if you ever do...Be grown up enough to say you are SORRY!
Let them know that if they make a bad choice or get in a sticky situation, that they can call you and you will come get them. Even if they are at some party in the middle of the Forest. You can ask questions later, you can love them later, you can teach them consequences later.
PROMISE them that even when you are not perfect, and none of us are...so listen up, promise that you will do your best to make it right.
And if you ever plan to adopt a child - Promise me that you're in it for the long haul...no matter how hard it is, or how many times they yell at you because they don't understand whats happening, or how closed off they become. Maybe they just need a hug, or some professional help...so get it. You can take that family vacation later, but atleast you will still have a family.
Be prepared to let go of anger, even if they have not.
Go Hug your children now...don't wait! Teach them about the consequences of drugs, alcohol, tobacco, and sex. Help them to be their own best advocate when it comes to making these kinds of choices.
So again...if I SCREAM! Will you do it? Will you take the time to talk to your kids...really talk! Will you stay calm when they really trust you with the ugly truth? Knowing how difficult it must be for them to tell you some things?
I PROMISE YOU that you won't regret it!